Twin Mother Diaries -The Guilt

Had heard and  read so much about  Motherhood and the this special bond and was wanting to experience it since long but i had never actually thought that it takes a  hell lot out of you to become a mother and when  there are 2 at a time , you are DONE for the life time ! lol...

Being back to my professional life is damn exciting to me as I am a person who can’t be caged for longer in 4 walls of home. With all the respect to the mothers who let go of thier professional carrer and choose to take back seat for their babies with no remorse Hats off to you..you have big hearts.. love you ladies..

So after a long complicated inner turmoil in between my mind and heart about...

Should I let my caliber go and become a 'be at home momma' or should i at least try out balancing both? I had to choose.

Is it ok to sacrifice my time with them? Or its fine if I am working as I am doing to provide a better life to my kids and satisfaction to self.

And much more then what I can jot down here.

I assumed that to manage kids home and work will gradually be easy and comfortable like thousands of working mothers but what I forgot was, I have 2 cute devils back home instead of 1.

The balance is hard …tough… mind blogging…..draining….whatever  more adjectives I can add. The morning chores , cooking, managing your cranky little humans, their morning routine , getting ready for office, a busy streneous day at office , driving back home and back to a mothers role with no scope of relxation even for minutes, the evening and dinning chores , feeding kids, their bedtime , the lulbyes, the last routines of the day and here you are with a few hours of sleep and a hectic day waiting ahead next morning ..sounds... Sacary isnt?.... 

We live it all happily and still manage being a strong independent Indian female but what is worst and kills you is the 'Guilt' The guilt of leaving your babies back at home.

Then I realized a Woman can’t have it all; the working mom’s guilt is all too familiar to those of us who are trying to raise families and pursue our careers. There are both pros & cons to it. One must not be guilty.

No mommy, don’t feel bad!

Though it’s difficult to face those 2 cute pair of eyes when you pick your handbag and are ready to leave for office.

Though it’s heartbreaking to distract them as they just don’t want to lose the hold of their little fingers on your shirt.

Though it’s emotional moment even when they wave goodbye to you with excitement but its only you who knows that mommy won’t be around now for few hours.

Though it’s true that you know you might miss many of their self development moments.

Even though , you know they will be missing you a lot the whole day and might not be able to even express it.

But somewhere, mommy you are doing it for their betterment.

It’s completely okay if you go out for few hours to work. You learn, you improve, and you become a happy confident mother. 

You are doing it for being a mentally healthy mother which in turn will only raise happy confident kids.

You will now value more every precious second spent with your kids and vice versa instead of being around them all the time and later craving 'alone' time.

Don’t be guilty mom, you are a  mother but it’s your life too, at the end of the day your kids will always respect and look up to you when they grow up  for being a mother who was able to strike an excellent  balance at both the ends ..And craft a beautiful future for all . Thumbs Up!

So dear mommy stop feeling guilty, don’t be scared to be judged on your love and affection.

Its injustice to evaluate a Mothers love just because she is a working.  Whether "a stay at home mother" or "a wroking one",a mother is a mother to a kid. 

Time to log off and reunite with my Twin duo! Dying to meet those waiting eyes and hear those giggles, the excitement is an untold happiness, the best moment of the day! Mommy coming darlings!!

"She never quiet leaves her children at home even when she doesn’t take them along”

Just Pin you hair Up,

Sip a quick cup of coffee,

 Get Up and handle it with a Smile :-) 

Dedicated to all working mothers, Be proud of yourself, You are doing a great Job!

Stay Blessed ! Love -J