It’s a Friday afternoon and the clock is ticking. You are working furiously to complete a task allotted which needs to be submitted before 5 o’ clock deadline, while you are silently cursing yourself for not starting it sooner and deep inside you are unable to enjoy the weekend feeling.

 

How did this happen? What went wrong? Why and when did you lose your focus?

 

Procrastination is a trap which many of the professionals fall into. It’s a process where you choose to do something else instead of the task you are supposed to do first. Lack of interest, distraction, loosing focus, laziness and unwillingness to act are the culprits.

 

Here are few quick tips to Overcome Procrastination:

 

1.       Schedule and Time your work.

2.     Recognize and accept that you are procrastinating.

3.     Always maintain a To-Do list.

4.     Prioritize your tasks honestly and fairly.

5.     Take the hardest task first on your list at your peak hrs. When

        you are most productive.

6.     Set personal Reminders /Motivators (Persons reminding

        you about the tasks, yes it works.)

7.     Set your task completion goal for every day.

8.    Don’t forget to do a quick Evaluation at the end of the day.

Analyze the gap to understand the degree of your Procrastination fever.

  “The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.”

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The Corona Break :-)

The Road was getting worst in every 5 metre . Infact there was no road at all , I guess only animals used that route to commute not vehicles for sure .It was pitch dark except the lights from the head lights of our car. The google map was confusing and we could not do much to the sweet voice of the google aunty audible on our Bluetooth speaker of our car . My husband was cursing me to choose this resort for our Holiday.

 Since I had recommended it and managed the coordination I was also feeling embarrassed for our friends who were following us on the way to reach the same destination. Yes it was this Jan 2021 when like all the other frustrated humans we decide to take a quick break from this corona world and have some peaceful time at some far of resort in rajasthan.

 Finally there was a dead end, our car was stuck. We were helpless and finally spotted a boy from the same village who volunteered to help. Looking at my expressions and may be my restless ness to reach the resort, he asked us to allow him to sit in the car and guide them. Me and abhishek (My husband looked at each other and exchanged the “ no other way to escape” kind of of signal through our tired eyes . 

 The boy happily sat inside the car at the backseat …and it took me less than 10 seconds to sense correctly that this chap had not taken bath since days.. , thank god I am good at controlling my breathing . I didn’t wished to smell more and freezed my nose to just quietly follow his instructions. Abhishek was equally suffocated and he opened the window glasses for the escape. My twin toddlers were bold enough to frankly comment “ mamma , something is stinging badly” I didn’t react.

 After about 10 minutes drive we finally reached our resort and felt some relief . like a good human despite of the suffocation we suffered due to his body odour , abhishek and e decided to hand him over a 100 Rs. Obviously for saving our time and guiding us to our resort. With a lot of dilemmas we entered the resort as , I just wished the resort must be good atleast now . 

 To our surprise it was exactly the way we wished . Surrounded by mountains, beautiful , peaceful and clean. Chilly whether added to the beauty . We had a good time that night with music , bonfire, dance , delicious dinner and a good sleep. We were excited about the morning view. I had sat the alarm to enjoy the morning sight . 6.15 am tring tring alarm sets on.

 

 I woke up , covered myself with a jacket , cap and mask , wore my sports shoes and walked out. It was breathtaking view from our balcony. The step by step rising Sun and foggy mountains all around. The Wet floor , trees , leaves , not because it rained but it was the mist , fresh mist almost on everything . The silence was so soothing , the only sound i could hear was of the birds. Different variety of birds , different sounds , some eating their breakfast and a few cuddling each other. I was taking this walk all around the resort and as I stepped out of the gate , I was delighted to see my friend Payal who was already up may be earlier then me. Being Nature lovers we both decided to go for a quick walk around the village. 

  Tea comes in our mind the first thing in morning . Both of us addicted tea lovers , we wished some villagers to offer us some fresh tea. With the same intention and to experience the village life we entered a house in the village full of kids , elders, older people and few pet goat and Cows . We noticed their simple life , they were all delighted to host us for the morning tea and got clicked with us. 

We both were keen to know their routine , we entered their hut and found a lady making chapatis this early in the morning near a handmade Chulla as they call it. Our tea was also freshly made on the same Chulla. We were just admiring the sight ,surrounded by kids, we also got clicked with the cute lambs. The villagers were looking at us surprisingly and we definitely felt like being  local celebrities for them. 

 The rest of the day went on in  relaxing , having good food, lazing around, playing with kids , enjoying the nature , chit- chatting till late night, bon fire , cherishing old memories , 80s songs sitting in our room balconies . We had a bliss full 2 days, and it was time to return to the hustle bustle city life again. Trust me , we didn’t want the holiday to end. Such time spent makes memories for life time .

 Place : Udaipur Rajasthan
 Venue : Hunting Lodge Resort , Debari, 10kms away from Udaipur on Chittore Highway.
 
 Month : Jan 2021

 Duration : 2 nights

 Sights to see : The Nature all across

 Food : The food was delicious a the resort .

 Was cooked on order , fresh , healthy and yummy. 

 Kids: Huge Garden , Swimming Pool ,Pool game for kids to enjoy 

Shopping : No Nothing (You need to move out far kms in the city area)

 Any other Tips: GO to this place if you want to refresh your brain and soul.

 Important Note : We picked up a wrong route. The resort is not easy to spot. There is a n easier way to reach at the resort , its better to be in touch with the Resort people.

Appreciations: The staff was humble, Cooperative and Polite.

 Indeed , a good Corona Break :-)

Covid 19 – The Midas Touch....

A lazy Quarantine evening. Kids gone out in society garden for some fresh air. Me sipping my Tea at my terrace admiring and listening to the silence of the evening which were never ever so peaceful.

The only sound I can hear is of light 80s music from someone’s terrace, I can notice people on their terrace walking strolling , dad and kids playing badminton, mothers chopping vegetables , chatting with moms, mother in laws , one teen doing evening workout with some jazz music , old couple engrossed in evening gardening in their balcony, 2 aunties entertaining themselves with some serious gossips obviously from their respecting balconies (maintaining social distancing)

I see a young girl making her own video in her balcony …. taking her own takes and re- takes lol.. must be to post it over social media (The most IN thing …. 😊)

Such a beautiful sight, reminds me of 90’s, when terraces, balconies, Otlaas were our local desi cafés and lounges lol… Yes! People used to spend hours and hours at these favorite spots.

Loads and loads of things are said, done, written already over the prevailing situation So guys no gyaan here. I am here to just to share and make a note, mark it as a memory, mark my chain of thoughts/emotions during this once in a lifetime situation through my blog.

A thought crossed my mind and it quickly wanted to jot it down ….

The current state reminds me of the very old Story we all have heard - The Midas Touch! The king wished to have loads of Gold , The wish was granted but he never knew the after effects of the Boon. 

The cons?

We craved time with family, wives whined over the husband is not having time, working mother complained no time for kids, Parents complained of  son and daughter in law’s time , Kids wished longer holidays, Wished more screen time allowed, we cribbed the monotonous office life, we cribbed  having no time to read, exercise , write and even think. We craved for not been able live our passions and the list seem interminable….

Here you go, all granted by almighty in this one Shot! (Novel Covid 19)

Of course, with the so-called Cons!! (We are all frustrated about)

However, to be honest I am in love with the Pros!  I am loving this simplicity.

We all have at least been able to comprehended one thing “correct” about Life during this lock down, that is “The cost of living” is never expensive, it’s “the Cost of Lifestyle” that is expensive.

 All this, Yes Of course along with a strong thought ….

In the midst of chaos, (Cons) there is also an opportunity.

The wound is the place where the light enters you- RUMI 😊

We shall all emerge back soon with that powerful light within us!

The Midas effect will soon be over …. With this hope, Wishing you all Healthy Life ahead….

Stay Home , Stay Safe !

Covid Times 2020!

Love -J

Team Engagement at the times of Covid-19

Since the covid 19 times most of the companies are forced by the circumstances to allow employees to work from home.

 However they are all making their best effort to contribute towards the office tasks being in their homes yet in these difficult times they equally need a good dose of Positivity ,feeling connected and  motivated. 

Beautiful Article  on how HR, Team leaders can keep their team energised,motivated and engaged  and entertained.

Below are few  offline activities which can be conducted with your teams working from home:

1. Posting a daily Scheduled Quiz  and fixing a valid time for closer. (quiz can be related to your own domain)Announcing the winner fortnightly  or per week (your call) for maximum  correct answer. 

Quiz  can be visual..to make it more interesting.involve movies, songs, history, covid-19(a lot many variations can be added) 

2. Post a real pic.and let everyone write a short story  on it(word limit to be set)

3. Post Indian map  picture and let them doddle or point out where they were born. 

4.Things in common-let your team Mingle up offline and come up with 5 common things.. Tell them to come up as three  different  groups 

This will stir a lot of interactions amongst themselves before posting  the common  interests on the group for eg 

Richa, jaya,sandeep,bhishek we four  joined the organization  in the same month same year. 

5) .3 Favourite things about the company . This will let you know their mindset and liking about the company. 

6.Who all Have ever! -You may just post or drop a question like 

How many of you have travelled to USA

How many of you have a pet

How many of you have a pink shirt/kurti/top

Many variations... 

7. Announcing 2-3dish  to be prepared optional for the next day.  They can Choose any one of them and post their own  pic along with the dish. 

(first 3 timely entries can be the winner )

8.Throw a topic and let them Write a paragraph on it.(word limit to be set) 

9 Getting involved into some fortnightly  or daily challenges u can set for e.g 

-Send a selfie  with your wife and kids send a audio  visual  

 -how are they feeling to find you at home 

-make a hand made card on awareness of covid 19

-Any of your kids activity drawing, scrabbling, dance, song, poem

-Sing a song yourself  record  it with audio  visual  and send in the group. 

-Work  out audio  visual  challenge. Ask for a particular exercise a

Or Yoga  set

-Share a childhood  photo  of yours

And many more activities

10. Tasks. Tongue twister 

11. You have a minute to win it game can be played where different tasks can be given to be completed  in 1minutes record and send it

12.Elobarate /define  the abbreviations of your company name with adjectives on how you feel  your company's image is. Best answer  will be the winner. (don't give more than an hour for this one) 

It will help you what your emmployees think about your company. 

Imp notes:

For all the above activities if you are initiating, you need to have space on your phone. You need to be active and  vigilant  on the activities of the group..  Keep a track of entries. 

It's not easy to get everyone think alike and make them engrossed offline. Lot of efforts and sportiness will be required. 

For keeping it short.. Always add few disciplinary mandatory and easy to manage rules like first 4 entries  will only be considered so that rest of them don't even post if the said number is already reached.  

Keep  encouraging the non participating public 

You can divide a big team into 2small. Teams with different groups

It's for fun so just announce the winners.. They can be gifted with some goodies once the office re-opens. 

So have good times.  Make your team feel most positive, energetic  and most important  we all are still together feeling :) 

We stand apart but united! We shall fight these times as well! 

#Covid-19times

#retaining positivity

#teamlove 

#teamtogetherness

Farewell 2020 Blog

Again time for one more Farewell, one of those days to again say good bye to someone formally. It surprises me the way life makes us go through numerous emotions. Trust me this one is one of those sweetly painful feeling where you are not able to decide are you really that sad or it’s a momentarily gloomy feeling. (May be depends on our psychological proximity with that person/people)

We all come across so many people in our lives, our friends, neighbors, colleagues, distant relatives, and many important /unimportant people we meet on daily basis. Take a second and think right from

That office boy at your office  

The servant working at your house

To the grocery wala  you used to buy or may be still buy your groceries from…  

the new receptionist sitting at your  doctors clinic admiring you from distant  in every 15 seconds just because you seem handsome to her and lets you in a bit earlier then others.. ( lol 

The Beautician you go to every month … and she bores /lures you with the new facial scheme lol

The sabjiwali outside your house who welcomes you with a sweet smile saying “madamji bas aapke liye he yeh bhaav hai lol….  (I am sure she must be copy pasting the same dialogue to every good looking madamji and you know it)

Your office people with whom you spent 9 hours. With each one of them you share a special bond. Tiffin buddies, make up buddies, fashion buddies, gossip buddies, tea time buddies , selfie buddies and now the latest  Tik tok buddies ..(lol.)And so on the categorization is endless.

 I know you all are chuckling… as you all have experienced this.

 And then comes the Farwell time! Last meetings … and then we never see them around us as we used to…We digest the fact or not but all of them they teach us something in life. But whenever your life takes turns the set of people around you keep on shuffling…

 Life moves on......Farewells happen, people move on so did I, you and million others in this world. Few people who stayed for ever …? Few for few years… months …. Days and yes even few hours. They all have an interesting part to play in our lives and reversal. It’s up to us to which part to remember and forget or which ones to keep cherishing all through our lives.

The the best part is each moment you spent with them is making a memory … moments getting stored the way your images get stored in your cell phones…  you delete the images you don’t wish to store and you  save and keep which are worth cherishing ( depends on the closeness with that person…) We miss them,  yes we do. You transfer them to your laptop and sometimes when you go through them there is a flash back of memories, you relive those moments..

Dedicated to all the people I met till now in my life …. Farewells happened. Many are forgotten, some which are still alive in my subconscious mind, but few still occupy a special place in my mind and heart and very few special ones which are hard to forget and I opt not to forget them forever!!  Will always Miss you those :-)

But you know you are lucky blessed if there is something which is making your goodbye so hard” I am one of those blessed people. And I am proud!

LOVE YOU ALL! & yes each one of you will be missedJ

GOODBYE JUST TO MEET AGAIN!

Love 

J

Being Human – Are We Really ?

Being Human – Are We Really ?

It was 3 O’clock in afternoon, a dull mundane day at office (hope you have heard about THE SLOWDOWN” we were suffering from same virus) A normal activity checking social media on phone. A few seconds of serious thought which actually inspired me to write today after long here. Though we all know this, it’s a common topic; we crib about it in group discussions but yet follow the same.

The thought that Human Being (Homosapiens –Our biological Name)   is a social Animal, we all have a social life, interactions with each other, chatting, sharing, commenting, expressing ourselves, crying, laughing, giggling, and sobbing and we “used to” express in person all this with our close circle of people.

The so called Social Animal still socializes but virtually. We express check, gossip, laugh (LOL.)  Cry, sob, anger, happiness, sadness all through EMOJIS on our smart phones. In person we pass by each other with blank looks, faces, expressions but as soon as we take the idiot gadget in hand we start expressing ourselves to a person who isn’t physically present with us and totally ignoring the person standing next to us.  Even after being gifted with so much of Brains this species has lost its sanity.

·         We all have become mentally handicap. We don’t think much and put efforts to think because Google has spoiled us. We go to Google for each and every query of life.

·         We don’t approach new people and go and start interactions with strangers because we are loaded with our FB Friends. Sitting at home we make new friends, Friends who will send us emojis to show that they are happy and sad with you but they are actually not but they do it thinking it’s their virtual world responsibility.

·         We don’t visit friends and relatives with a personal visit for how are they doing? The Whats up STATUS and INSTAGRAM FB Stories and FB Posts tell us a lot about their life on daily basis. We viewed it and our social duty is over J

·         We no longer do shopping the way our mothers used to do, we scroll, flip, select, cancel, order, like, dislike. Thanks to Online shopping Sites and Shopping POP Ups on all the social media sites. I real times miss my mother’s bargaining Skills. Trust me even the old Sabjiwala of your mohalla must be missing that hardcore bargaining by your mother or dadi or nani. He must be feeling so bored with a minimum interaction with just Kitne kilo? And kitna hua? Sentences by US, yes WE the today’s generation who are too busy to bargain and waste time chatting with poor sabjiwla.

·         We don’t go and invite people personally to our family events and functions? No More yes.. Hahaha.. Are you kidding? We have Flyer Invites to just send it to loads over what’s up. I have invited so many people.Yet very less turn up. I m sure only 20 % of the people you actually invited within seconds.

·         Interactions and conversations have just ended , Good friends don’t meet , chat, share regularly because they think it’s not important , abhi do dekha use online , status dekh liya , nothing new to explore. So there is no need to meet.

·         We keep a track and a check on each other virtually because you all meet each other daily, within minutes and seconds, we keep a virtual check on each other obviously not out of concern. We feel forced mentally to show ourselves happy virtually to the world. No one has time to call you, Stop you, meet you and ask you “How are you Buddy?”

Have many such recent experience with people to share but I might not share them here as after reading this they might virtually block me from their life hahaahah..LOL…

Something bad happening is caught recorded live and circulated between lakhs instead of stopping the deed and not letting it happen. The insensitive App W…UP is full of such videos A school teacher beating a kid, some injustice happening with a women, accident happening on road , and many more such events are recorded live with lot of peace and enjoyment … and then circulated to disturb people in their work to watch and respond …

I love the tag line of Salman’s Personal  Brand “ Being Human” Lakhs of Youngster flaunt the tag on their T-shirts .. But are we really left with Humanity?

Are we really Human?

We are a lost yet we are Progressing.

P.S -Just few personal quick thoughts I shared. It’s an endless topic and I can go on and on this and I think many of us can. But we don’t have time. Let me not blame others, I also don’t have time to express and to write which I love. I did it after long. Thanks to the “SLOWDOWN” Opps!!

Cheers!

J

My New Normal: A Motherless Daughter

My New Normal: A Motherless Daughter

Cant Believe its been one Month and a week that “She “has passed away!. Left this world forever, not to be seen and heard anywhere forever! She was my “Mother”!  The only person in the entire universe who genuinely cared about how I am?

I felt like sailing ship whose sailor has been murdered and its moving clue –less in the ocean.

My World has crashed down forever is the feeling I had when I read the one liner message on my phone about my mother’s death a month back in my office! (The first info about my mother’s demise)

Nobody prepares you for the ugly storm of emotions that are to attack you when you lose your parent. Infact no one can prepare you that ways emotionally to take that roller coaster ride of emotions. 

Shock, numbness, denial, anger, sadness, and despair I was experiencing them altogether.

 She wasn’t a perfect pampering mother, (She had her own set of Ethics, and Rules which she always followed) but her sudden absence in my life left me naïve, unprepared, lost, vulnerable, orphanage not just literally but mentally and emotionally.

My mother suffered a silent heart attack due to high blood sugar level. She was suffering from her kidney problem since a year and was on dialysis twice a week. Being a diabetic Patient had made things even worst. But was still living her normal routine life and was not expected to go this early?

I wanted to hug her tight when I saw her first time post her death but was not allowed to… I felt liking killing those who were prohibiting me. It took me a while to understand and gulp that she is no more and I have to follow certain rules before her last rituals.

I am surprised but I dnt know myself how I became so strong and acted as A Mother to my Mother (a still body now) during her last bath. I hugged kissed her thousand times while dressing her up like a bride. Tears rolling down my cheeks but I was suddenly so over protective and possessive of her body in my arms. I kept staring those hands which used to caress me and the eyes that were always waiting for my arrival.

I just so much wished at the moment that she comes back for a while , stays for a while so that we can hear her speak, smile, express and let her listen how much she meant to all of us.

A mother is a heart of the family… they are just not a good words but I have felt them literally. We were all together, my dad, brother, sister, relatives but my home never felt the same. 

No one can ever feel that void in your life.

No one can ever love you more than your mother except God

She always remains incomparable!

Till you have your parents alive you feel you have a roof, there is someone to scold you no matter what your age is, there is someone whom you can consider for a advise/Sharing your stupid stuff ,you are still a kid to someone, you can afford to be immature! Parents are your strength however old they are. They are gems of your life which we often take grated for..

Time flies , today I have become A Mother –less Daughter and living life normally (Never  emotionally) and Yes i know what She would expect me to be still to be  Strong for my kids, my family , for you my mother . I wont disappoint you

I just wished to write few words to my mother today feeling this letter will reach her up there!

Dear Mother,

I am missing you badly today,

Let me share something with you which I never could….,

With time I am feeling I am becoming just like you,

When I look myself in mirror, your words echoes in my ears…,

With each passing day I feel confused at times  as mother, as wife, as daughter in law …I ask myself …Are you entering in me or am I entering into you.

I do things and react the way u used to and I used to mock about you.

I think and I find myself standing at the same place you were standing at once …

And how I now remember your words …”Let you become a mother and then talk to me!”

I so much want to talk to you about how I feel now, share the same stuff and thank you many times for the valuable teaching you gave casually which I always ignored.

But you are no where.. I just can’t find you to reassure yes you were right! I have realized and yes - Your daughter will never let you down and live up to your expectations, I Promise!

 

Just strengthen me more to learn to live without You.

Love you Forever and ever Mummy! A tight Hug to you! Rest in Peace!

Dear God Please post this letter to her where ever she is! I am sure it will bring her a tearful smile.

With Love – A Mother less Daughter