Companionship- Beyond Friendship

Companionship

There could be some or I would rather say many such days when you feel that your that one time best friend is no more interested in you.

We meet them suddenly in our lives as office colleague, neighbor, college buddy, Gym buddy and many more categories. We become too close friends, share, laugh, cry together, we also promise we will keep in touch all through our lives but there comes a point of time when  things changes .

The extreme closeness gradually shifts to meeting once in a week then once in 15 days, daily texting, sharing, to one time long chat in week  to just forwards,  to rare hi hello, and "whats going on" messages.

My case was not as bad as exposed above but yes I met her at my new job almost 4 years back. We clicked and became friends. We started feeling comfortable with each others company, sharing secrets, all kind of personal and professional issues, we giggled, cried, laughed together, clicked loads of pictures together in fact were famous for "clicking girls" in our office. There is hardly any occasion which we have not enjoyed together with tremendous enthusiasm, yes that was something which kept us going for each other always. We were inspired motivated by each other. Even being a diverse in few things we always cherished, admired and silently followed the good things of each other (Yes we did, if she reads this, she will definitely smile with her heart ) We also loved and hated few things in each other but we were open with no cover. Best part was things were genuine between us.

The day came when she left the job.

We still are good friends, we often meet. Finally one of those days came between us as well when I was missing her badly but there was no initiative from her end since last few days. Because of busy lives the frequency of interactions, meetings, sharing decreased same like the way I narrated above, yes  I too was undergoing the same emotion.

Was that a show off of emotions? Or just a short-term association whom i took too emotionally and still on with it where as the other person is not? Loads of such thoughts crossing my mind. I wasn't thinking that wrongly for her but I was upset.

I wished to say talk, share so much with her but I guess she was busy so even I avoided disturbing her or to be honest the major reasons of my ignorance was making an excuse to myself that “Jab who busy hai toh main bhi toh hu types” (We females are typical, we suppress our natural emotions at times and it makes me laugh when i talk to myself)

That day I simply texted her that I was feeling low and in evening I found her down my office to pick me for a cup of coffee at our customary hangout joint. I was excited and the moment I saw her, I couldn't stop hugging her,she knew ,I am loaded, loaded of emotions and sharings.

What followed next changed my definition of just  being friends.

We spent almost 2 hours together with non stop talks, coffees, we didn't realize the time.

Its not about a deep secret or frustration which was shared (as we are well aware of each others daily lives and happenings) but trust me it was merely the simple talking and sharing’s, the togetherness, the responses, the reactions,the listening, the genuine involvement with each other which we enjoyed. I relived my old days with her.

All my doubts and resentments vanished after that evening.

When I was dropped, we both silently discovered that its not about meeting and maintaining the friendship or being friends was important to us,  the most important thing  which made us comfortable with each other always was our  amazing “Companionship”, something which is beyond friendship. 

We all have loads of good friends but not every friend will be our companion. I am proud to have her in my life and I am sure wherever we go in our lives the "not able to keep in touch regularly" thing can never effect our “Companionship”

So just Dont overlook or misunderstand a friend just because he/she is not able to meet you or  keep in touch regularly but  you still feel you forget the world when you meet him/her.

Think over it....there must be very few:-) 

While walking back home i changed my dp (and so did she) with our latest photo together with my status which said "Few people can never be replaced. As always, loved your company" 

(I know this will bring a big smile on her face, thanks buddy)

“Ultimately the best bond whether in friendship, marriage or any relationship is a true Companionship”

God Luck! Stay Blessed - J

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