You are Amazing

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Its Sunday, a different day, i was admiring the morning, cherishing the environment around me on my terrace, the rising sun,chirping of birds, temple bells from distant, fresh flowers on my terrace garden, the sight and feeling was wonderful.I thought - Mornings… Yeah so beautiful they are.

I feel like getting up every day and enjoy them but my day starts with a quick remembrance of God , even for just a minute but yes I do, the first thing (we quickly do is to remember god just to make sure we don’t miss out on this), followed by a quick shower and entering the most dominated area(since ages) of the house that is “Kitchen”

I pull the radio and quickly check all the stations and finally fix it on the station where a soothing morning song which I assume will make my day. lol.. Though later I get irritated when few good songs are followed by stupid loud songs and finally every day I end up switching it off in frustration  but yes, I still don’t forget to repeat this exercise every morning in hope to listen to “soothing morning songs” lol.

Quickly making the tea, chopping the vegetables, giving constant instructions to my dumb maid (all maids seems dumb to working females) Reading newspaper and tea pretending to enjoy my morning tea but finally end up shuffling pages and deciding inside everyday “ baaki ka wapas aake padhungi”. (I know all of you are giggling inside) Set up the washing machine and give irritating looks to my maid for her non stop talks even when she knows I am so damn busy but pretending to get involved with her stupid talks, not because I am realy interested but just because ,"I value my maid” and in fact  "We all do" we don’t have any other option. lol…

My door bell rings and I run to attend the press wala… slowing down the gas and take proper count of the no. of clothes , It surprises me that  in this everyday hectic morning I still don’t forget to taunt the poor guy about the untidy ironing he has done to my Kurti. lol.. I can notice his expressions every single day , must be murmuring deep inside (Females!! Females!! Bhaag yahn say before she notices something else, lol.)

Now I pack my Tiffin, clean kitchen and time to shut the stupid radio off finally with a frustrating expression. I get ready and during this whole course of getting ready giving continuous instructions to my husband on dos and don’t of the day which he quietly listen because we both know only one fourth of them will be followed at the end of the day . Huh!! Checking the doors and windows and finally stepping out of the house. I reach till parking and do hi!,  hello! kem cho!  to not less than 3 aunties of the society (after all thoda socializing bhi zaruri hai, I strongly support)  

Reaching office, would not say on time, I am always a little late no matter how hard I try to be on time. (But I am improving I have to mention) Yes office feels like a second home (It has its own interesting story to share, but some other day ) My office is fun most of the time with wonderful colleagues around and most important I enjoy and love my work. 

When the day ends my mind wanders on what to carry with me while going back home? Sabji, cosmetics, grocery? Tailor, doc and much more. I have some engagement every day post office prior to reaching home. Finally I am home to relax but you know we just keep on thinking about relaxation but we don’t give ourselves a chance to relax. Evening dinner, cleaning kitchen, preparation for next day lunch, Watching TV, reading newspaper, going for a walk and preparing the next day wardrobe… and finally on bed turning ,twisting, thinking and cribbing about what you couldn't do or finish today? Strange!! …Females!!  The amazing species.

We all look up to strong, multitask er, independent women, but there is a cost we pay behind that…..

It’s just my story. I am sure you all have your own version of a working women and will find yourself in this picture which is recently drawn in your mind.

Three out of four working women in India suffer from lifestyle, chronic or acute ailments due to the pressure from trying to balance their personal and professional lives, according to an Assocham survey. (also inspired by article by Writer Cheten bhagat in 2012)

What are we doing? What are we expecting out from ourselves? What we want to prove this world and ourselves?

We are perhaps not realizing but the modern India have come together to create a dangerous environment for working urban women. While they’re still expected to dispense their traditional duties of being a wife, mother, daughter-in-law or mother-in-law, now working women are also expected to bring in the bread. They’re expected to keep the house clean, cook and dispense other wifely duties while serving the perfect image of a cool, independent working female. Sometimes it makes me think that was the old life more easy and simple of being confined to house indoors and nothing more is expected from you? Here we are being subtly pushed to believe that we are capable of managing everything.

Don t just flow with these manipulative encouragements! Yes we can but why it is a compulsion to confirm the same all the time.Think over it!  

The advice to myself and all other are to slow down and enjoy the pleasures in life instead of proving yourself “perfect”, trust me you won’t be able to be one and still if you try all you will get in return is just endless mindless hopes all through your life.

The story above looks funny but relevant because we all somewhere live that life but more important is to get the essence out of this.

We must be proud of ourselves that still we females get involved to make fun our own species via messages, mails forwards, and videos. We agree that we mock, we cry, we are jealous, we crib, we morn but yes we also love, we care, we manage, we trust, we give, we sacrifice and the list is endless. Trust me not everyone can do this!

So stop chasing peoples dream have your own, work hard for them, be yourself. People who really love you will come find you and stay, no matter what.

You.Are.Amazing.

As. you. are.

Stronger than you know.

More beautiful than you think.

Worthier than you believe.

More loved than you can ever imagine.

Passionate about making a difference.

Fiery when protecting those you love.

Learning. Growing. 

Not alone.Warm. Giving. Generous.

Quirky. Sexy. Funny. 

Smart.Flawed. Whole.

Scared. Brave.

And so, so, so.much.more.

Be Strong. Be Confident.

Don’t Juggle, Don’t Prove,

Just Be You. 

Source Tia Sparkles Singh, 2011 

Goodluck Stay Blessed -J